Rise in Love or Fall in Love

"I have fallen in love with her", yesterday one of my friends was telling me pointing to one of her friends. He is not the type of guy who, I believe, had ever been in these things. He did well in his academics & then in his career too. His colleagues used to think that he was a diligent guy, all of his bosses were impressed by his sincerity, attitude & performance. He has been giving good results & always rising since his first day in the corporate culture.
That is what the point of my thinking that a person, who had never fallen in his life, was saying that he had fallen & that’s in LOVE. As much I've heard & understand from others' experiences that love brings happiness in life, it makes you a better person, it gives you a confidence you need and so on. Then how can anybody fall in love. All those characteristics of love I know do not ally with this at least.
In my opinion, if you have started liking somebody and, you think, not just you want to live but you can't live without him/her, then you are in love. And when you are in love, you don't fall in love but you rise in love.

So what is your take on that? Have you fallen in love :-)?

Lead India..II

Two simple alphabets...D...O, place them side by side however & they form a word powerful enough to turn mass of people into a nation.......
Do
The last time we decided to Do or Die it changed the map of the world.
Today we reached to a stage where the eyes of the world are on us again.
So what are we going to do?
How are we going to change a land of philosophers into a land of Doers?
Are we going to keep thinking about what we should be doing or do something about what we are thinking?
Are we going to simply shrug our shoulders & blame our infrastructure & our bureaucracy or are we going to roll-up our sleeves, get up & actually do something about it?

The truth is this.... thinking may happen from an arm chair but doing must happen from your feet.
Thinking may be a great way of getting things started but doing is the only way to get things done.
And let’s face it, you never really caught in a traffic jam, you are the traffic Jam.

Today we are in 60th year of independence, 60 full years, more then a half a century but we are still happy being called an Emerging Economy, a Potential Superpower or a Sleeping Tiger. This must change.
& it’s only possible when some of us dare to be the change

Let’s stop basking about a glorious future & day dreaming about a great future.

Let’s start by dominating today & domination………

……..DOmination starts with DO.

- Excerpts from Lead India TV Ad.

Lead India..... - I

Scene:

Police-man is sleeping in his official vehicle.

It’s raining. Kids are playing in the street. One tree has fallen down may be because of strong winds or heavy rain. Unfortunately, tree is in middle of the road & has jammed the traffic. Everyone is blaming local authorities for not clearing the obstacle in their way because of which they are not able to move towards opportunities lying ahead in their way.

One Gentleman : Isliye tax bharte hein kyaa (Frustrated person is shouting why the hell do they pay taxes). But I don't think there is anybody noticing him except one policeman who just shows him a stick & ask him to go away.

PA of a local politician : Sir aapke liye us paar car ka intezaam kiya hai (Sir we have managed a car for you other side of the broken tree). But I don't think this person even deserve to have a cycle on public expenses.

One Girl : I just hate this country (Must be coming from somewhere where there is no problem). But I think she should first hate herself that she is saying these words.

Either everybody is cursing somebody for this thing, or they are just not bothered enough to see what is happening there. People are just somehow managing to pass this obstacle in their own way.
Kids are playing

In this turmoil, we see a kid, must be coming back from his school, seeing everything, noticing his fellow countrymen, suddenly realizes that there is nobody who is thinking of removing this log of wood from the road so everybody could move forward. He gets down from his school bus & starts walking towards that obstruction lying down in his way to his home.

Still he is not noticeable.

Few People are still cursing somebody who is not there to reply them.
Few are just not worried about anything because they are not compelled to care about that.
Now that little boy comes closer to the tree, drops his bag, & starts pushing the tree. Not to surprise, it is not even quivering a little bit. He is still trying but of no effect. Now people start noticing him but they are not even thinking of helping him. Everybody is cursing the mess but nobody is bothered enough to help this kid in clearing this mess. Suddenly some street kids join him. Then few people join him, few more & after sometime its sizable number of people who could push that tree out of the road.

This was one of the videos for promotion of Lead India initiative from Times group.

I don't know why but I was so much moved by this clip that it brought tears in my eyes. I was not thinking what those people were doing, I was thinking if I have done anything which could bring me a closer to this daring boy. Answer was affirmative but few times. That means I still need to work hard with honesty & sincerity for getting more 'Yes' then the 'No' when answering this question.

Today I am asking myself this question. What about you?

If you wish you can see this video on YouTube

"Missing you...."

My Guitar Club is Missing me, I miss my college buddies; you may be missing her, she may be too; My family is missing me & I miss them too. There are so many people you may be missing but How does it feel when somebody says "missing you / Tumhaari yaad aa rahi hai"? Obviously great, at least I feel great. Whenever somebody says that s/he is missing your presence either because of some special occasion or just without any reason, you feel lucky because at least there is somebody who cares for you, who needs you with him/her, who thinks your presence could make those moments of their life even more cheerful which are not more then some happy moments now.

But is it really easy to express to somebody that you are missing her/him? Definitely it is not that easy as it may sound. It has been more then 10 years since my high school, I have never told my family that I am missing them. Was it because I didn't miss them? No, I miss them most but now I feel I can't say that to them because it will show that I am not strong enough, which is not admissible to me.

In the same manner there are many people who are missing you, who need you in their life but never told you this ever. But, believe me, you should not do the same. Always express it if you are missing somebody or otherwise you may loose that person because s/he doesn't know if you really need her/him in your life.

So..Go....Grab the moment & Express what you need to say.

Across the Shores.....

We talk a lot about it, we work on it but probably we just don't understand it. What I am saying here may have come out from my own perception only but this is the meaning I get from Onshore-Offshore Model.

It is the concept almost every person, who works in Indian IT industry or who gets some work after developed world bangalored few of the jobs to this third world country, would be aware about . Frankly saying, Indian IT industry is surviving on this concept upto a large extent as still Indian IT industry does not has domestic market for IT & IT enabled services that are being provided by plethora of shops across the country. The erstwhile curse, its population, of India turned up as a boon for the Indian business, whose big part now comes from IT.

By the way here we are not discussing about Indian IT industry because much has already been said about that at many places, in many forums, we want to talk a little about its Onshore-Offshore Model, in which one team which needs to work on one project gets divided into two parts. Out of these two teams, One comes to Client Location & other works from their native location to make the processes cost effective.

However easy it may sound, its a tedious task to manage the expectations, egos & productivity of these two teams to achieve a common goal. As somebody gave a comment in my previous entry that "its half of the world which is suffering from Ego issues which are also the root cause of most of the altercations....", Managing Egos is a most daunting task of this model. Now there are two type of compositions of an Onshore team:

1>

Few members of Offshore team who had been working on the same project for some time, recognized by their supervisors & Clients, get the chance to represent the team in front of clients / customers. OR

2>

Some people with required number of experience who got selected by business managers come to work as an interface between company & client.

First scenario is still quiet manageable, however, managing these two different teams that are working for same project to achieve common goals, becomes more complicated in second case. Few reasons what I could elicit from my understanding & experience in this model are:

a>

In First scenario, where a person who came to Onshore is well versed with the problems because s/he may already have faced those problems at Offshore & in most of the cases s/he would be having a good & cordial relationship with her/his team.

But In second scenario, People who come to become the interface, are very new people for the team members who had been working on that project for a considerable duration of time. This low level of comfort between these teams creates many issues. Among them & the biggest, I understand, is Ego-clashes between counterparts.

b>

Another problem these teams face generally is lack of understanding about each other's work between counterparts which becomes even worse in second scenario.

c>

Third, & however not so important reason, from my point of view, is Day-Time difference which creates many hurdles in the proper communication between both teams.

There are many problems, nevertheless, as each problem has some solution these do as well. From my understanding we should follow few things especially if we are in second scenario:

I>

Existing Team Members should be more accommodating towards changes because change is the only constant thing in life. They should respect & try to understand the new members who are at Onshore.

II>

New members should be patient enough & should work to prove themselves that they really deserve a ever-longing position like the one they got.

III>

Leaders of teams across the shores should communicate regularly to eliminate the communication gap from the first day itself. This should come as a initiative from the one who is senior in the project.

IV>

The leader, no matter which side of shore he is, should not be over-enthusiastic & knowingly or unknowingly should not try to become a leader of old team which is already being led by somebody.

V>

At least for first few days senior people of project should work together to create a better understanding between themselves only after that other team members should be involved. Till that time they should be led in the usual manner as they were being.

In short, if we could manage only two things, Ego & Changes, we would not find any difficulty with this fundamental & coveted model of Indian IT.

EGO....My Biggest Enemy

"The “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought." this is the way in which Dictionary.com defines Ego.

I have lost many people I wanted to be with & I don't know thats because of me, my ego or because of the other person. I am shy of talking to others because I am afraid of being ridiculed. Though its not up to the extent that I could term it Catagelophobia, but I have definitely suffered a lot from it. People say I am confident, people say I am very active but nobody knows how much effort I make to overcome this fear. But when it comes to personal relationships this fear is still invincible for me.

I don't know why its today that I am thinking about it, may be because today I am realizing that its a long way I need to go to exterminate this ego from my inner self, otherwise I'll find myself alone in this world in the crowd of billions.

Hope...The Spinal Cord of The Life

Hope is the only thing which remains there till you die because once you loose hope you are not alive any more. Sometimes you know the truth but you choose not to believe it because you gotta hope that things will turn up in the way you want. But there are many times when you face something which makes you realize that you are not practical towards the life & expecting something to happen which is next to impossible.

When you like someone you like everything about her/him, you like everything linked to her & everything having a least similarity with her. Today I like all natives of one particular state, I like all people who got anything matches with her, because that reminds me about her & that make me smile. We know we are poles apart but what make me feel good that opposite poles attract each other though on the contrary what we forget every time that though opposite poles attract each other they never meet.

Its not that I am not trying, but when anybody asks me about anybody I like the most, its only one face which comes to my mind.

Its almost everyday that my colleagues ask me about my girl-friend, a person I love & every time I am not sure what to say. I can't tell that there is someone I have a big crush on but we are not more then friends any more.......

....& I don't see any other in my life so close at least in near future.

An alien missing many things.....

"An alien authorized to work"....thats the manner in which USA government defines a foreigner on Working Visa. Its more then 10 days for me that I am in states. With mixed feelings I can't say whether I like to be here or not. When I do the analysis then few things favor that I should like this place then few other things made me sad.

There are few great things I like about US like....

Before I came here, somebody told me that US people are best people in the world & I think that person was not wrong up to extent. We, in Mumbai, just claim to be friendly but these are the people who are more friendly then us.

They care for others.

Apart from People, life is comfortable over here. they have got a standard of living here which is not there in India. Infrastructure, roads etc.

You can afford luxury over here, which is a property of few millionaires in a city like Mumbai.

The TCS -Equifax group I got is really good. people are very helpful & empathetic.

But on the same time there are few things I am really struggling to cope up with:

Struggling to make an impression on fellow Co-workers. Though my American manager is projecting me as a technology expert, I don't think I have been able to impress my Fellow Indian Co-workers till now.

Other thing, I am really struggling in getting a Mobile Connection, which is just too difficult without SSN.

But above all, I am just missing someone so much that out of 24 hrs, 12 hrs, this person is on my mind. Though we were not talking or meeting frequently when I was in Mumbai, I am missing her too much here.....more then what I expected when I was coming here.